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Offline Sherry May

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Through a Rapist's Eyes
« on: February 16, 2005, 11:39:45 AM »
This was sent to me in an email and I thought it was well worth sharing!

The training section of the police department came upon this article recently. The information contained in the article is invaluable to women who could potentially be victims of crime. I would encourage everyone to read this, and pass it on to those you care for. It is not intended to scare anyone. Those that have been through the PROTECT course, or the CCW courses know that we constantly emphasize awareness of surroundings. This article reinforces that concept.

Through a Rapist's Eyes-
When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends. I forwarded to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this is too important information to miss someone.  A group of rapists and eight rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m

 

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8.) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

 

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are:
If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up, you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman in, a class this guy taught, told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as much as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended! up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

PLEASE READ THEN FORWARD THIS TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW, IT'S SIMPLE STUFF BUT -- IT COULD SAVE HER LIFE.
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Re: Through a Rapist's Eyes
« Reply #1 on: February 16, 2005, 01:04:39 PM »
I have taught women's self defense for many years.......there are some good ideas here.....
But, I am NOT an advocate of pepper spray for women unless you are trained in how to use it.  Most women are not going to have an opportunity to spray a bad guy until he has her in his grips.....and you don't want to spray someone that close to you.

Take a WOMEN'S self defense class that is taught by WOMEN!  Very few men have impressed me with their ability to understand how a woman reacts and/or thinks in the moments leading up to an attack.
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Re: Through a Rapist's Eyes
« Reply #2 on: February 16, 2005, 07:11:48 PM »
Everyone needs to learn to protect them selves. 

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Re: Through a Rapist's Eyes
« Reply #3 on: February 17, 2005, 05:25:17 AM »
a big ole .357 is also a good deterrant lol   in all seriousness Deb when are you gonna give us a class??
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Re: Through a Rapist's Eyes
« Reply #4 on: February 17, 2005, 10:24:27 AM »
You guys decide the time and date, and I'll give you a seminar FREE! 
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Re: Through a Rapist's Eyes
« Reply #5 on: February 19, 2005, 06:52:02 PM »
VERY good advice in here! A self-defence course or some sort of martial arts class is also very benificial... LOVE my taekwondo class, I'm a particularly lazy person and don't really go out of my way to work out, but when I started class it was different because thre was something to work for... It's great, I learn a wonderful art, how do defend myself, get myself into shape, compete in a truly awesome sport, and it just makes me feel good about myself.... Although it's not for everyone, it's something awesome to at least try.....

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Re: Through a Rapist's Eyes
« Reply #6 on: February 20, 2005, 11:16:52 AM »
 <IMSOMAD>This just plain sucks, you cant pull your hair up in a pony tail, pull on your sweats and run to the corner store for bread and milk with out becoming a target. And God forbid you get a phone call while you are diggin' in the bottom of your purse for your keys. It looks like us ladies are going to have to keep an eye out for each other when ever you're walking through parking lot, malls, bathrooms and where ever some sicko with a woody might be lingering.  What is this world coming to!!!
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