kelly your family is in my prayersm my dad as well has bone marrow cancer , kidney failure, heart disease and there wonting to open heart on him and he says no, he says he has lived his life and is doing ok he is so weak it is very hard to see them this way but as laura says it is better to be able to spend time with them than to not be able to say goodby i lost my mother at age 20 and she was in a coma and it flored me and now my dad is in this shape and im 41 almost 20 yrs later but a little over, god bless you my friend i know exactually what you are going thur just be storng and dont let this get you down as well i know how that is too, im at this time very sick as well, god bless you and your family you as so much in my prayers..Deborah Barnes